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  1. Malag

    I’m taking this one literally. Over the years my body has learnt to function sub-optimally. The other day I was doing a somatic exercise on one side of my body (not the other). Afterwards I stood in a very new way. The connection of hip to ground on the worked side was so noticeable compared to the unworked side.

    3 years ago
    1. Holly in Ohio

      That’s very interesting, Malag.

      3 years ago
  2. Heather

    I am learning to calm my mind in the face of challenges. Focus on the things that are in my control, and deciding my best response (if any is needed) for the things that are not in my control.

    3 years ago
  3. d
    dcdeb

    Patience, patience; and the remembrance of wise slogans

    3 years ago
  4. s
    spencer

    As a recovering people-pleaser, recent challenges have taught me how to set healthy boundaries, and to stand up for myself when those boundaries are crossed. I am very grateful to have learned this life lesson.

    3 years ago
  5. Don Jones

    By literally asking myself, “what am I standing on?” Meaning, what thought, emotion, feeling and asking why.

    3 years ago
  6. s
    sb

    This question brings emotions to the fore that I would rather forget. Challenges have left me bruised and scarred and often fearful but I learnt I was far more resilient that I realised. I learnt that you need to listen to yourself and your body and sometimes it is braver to admit you have to give up than to try to keep going. I learnt that many things can be endured and that there is always something to be learnt from a situation. I think I now stand bigger, better and stronger due to my challenges although it may not always feel that way! I am also marginally better at asking for help and not trying to do everything! And I have learnt to stand for what I think is right, rather than trying (and failing) to please everyone. I am definitely more understanding of people in the same position – I can stand with them. I think the saying goes, before I was sympathetic, now I am empathetic. At school we teach that life doesn’t always go as you want/plan but it is how you deal with that that matters. I think my challenges have helped me really understand that and be proud of how I have dealt with them. I can stand with my head high!

    3 years ago
    1. Holly in Ohio

      “sometimes it is braver to admit you have to give up than to try to keep going.” So true, sb!

      3 years ago
  7. MHS

    I have learned ( but not yet mastered) to pause when a challenge is presented, but not react. I find that if/when I react immediately (and emotionally) to a challenge, the result is not what I’m going for. But when I pause and breathe…I am able to react more logically.

    3 years ago
  8. Mica

    My memory losses in aging are tormenting me at the moment – I was in the middle of doing something when I got distracted and couldn’t remember WHAT I was doing, but I thought I had copied something before I got distracted. So I opened a new doc and PASTED this! –
    “We must reject not only the stereotypes that others hold of us, but also the stereotypes that we hold of ourselves. – SHIRLEY CHISHOLM”
    Such a wonderful quote. 👍🏾

    3 years ago
  9. GratefulOne

    Challenges have taught me to stand on my right foot only. And on my left foot only. And occasionally I stand on my head. 🙂

    3 years ago
  10. Jinkal Jain

    The hard challenges in my life taught me to live alone and know myself more by doing things which i love but i was not implying in my life …… and also taught me that it’s good to cry in alone it will relax you more from within and prepare you for next challenges with more energy and mental toughness….

    3 years ago
  11. EJP

    Recent challenges have taught me to stand tall with my new found inner strength and courage, wisdom and knowledge.

    3 years ago
  12. ShellieV

    Reflecting on challenges makes me stand taller, realizing I am much stronger than I think I am in most moments.

    3 years ago
  13. Maeve

    Challenges are teaching me to say no to what keeps me small and resigned, and more determined to go for what makes me a happier, more open and more joyful person.

    I am visiting friends and family in New Jersey. Kind of running away from an overwhelming, discouraging situation where I currently live.

    I am nurturing myself, and allowing myself to feel delighted and loved and at ease with people I love, and who love me. Took a glorious, early morning bike ride today with my sister, after not seeing family for over a year. Am loving it!

    3 years ago
    1. Holly in Ohio

      I hope you get to recharge your batteries, Maeve. 🙂

      3 years ago
      1. Maeve

        Thanks,

        3 years ago
  14. Christine

    An answer came to me, but I doubted whether I would give it. It brings me to a deep emotion. Now I’ll do it anyway. Here with you I feel and am safe. It is a text that my husband had selected for his funeral card. The last months of his life were a big challenge for us, and we read this every day.

    While in life’s see we are sailing,
    Toward the goal of our souls desire,
    We must part by all that meets us,
    And patiently always aspire,

    Let our hearts as compass guide us,
    And the boat our faith will steer,
    Day or night through the wind or storm,
    We must row and need not fear.

    Sufi Inayat Khan

    3 years ago
    1. Michele

      Thank you for sharing that – it’s beautiful.

      3 years ago
    2. ShellieV

      Thank you for sharing.

      3 years ago
    3. Holly in Ohio

      Beautiful, Christine!

      3 years ago
  15. Katrina

    Challenges have taught me to stand taller (I am 5’1″) both figuratively and literally. I have always felt small, insignificant, unheard, unseen. I had to learn to speak up and speak out for myself and for what I value. Sometimes that came out a little too strongly as I was learning – it came out harshly, aggressively, and in ways I did not perceive, but as others took as defiant. I am finally learning to stand as I am, I hope. Age and experience are wonderful teachers if I will listen and abide.

    3 years ago
    1. Holly in Ohio

      Rosa Parks, civil rights leader, 5’3″
      Ruth Ginsberg, former U.S. Supreme Court Justice, 5’1/2″
      Dr. Ruth Westheimer, sex educator and former Israeli commando, 4’7″
      Harriet Tubman, spy, liberator, 5’2″
      Coco Chanel, fashion magnate, 5’5″
      Angela Merkel, Chancellor of Germany, 5’5″
      Queen Victoria of the British Empire, 5′
      Amy Tan, author, 5’2″
      Indira Ghandi, former Prime Minister, India, 5’3″
      Madame Curie, scientist, 5′
      Frida Kalo, artist, 5’3″
      Michelle Kwan, figure skater, 2x Olympic medalist, 5’2″
      Malala Yousafzai, Pakastani activist for female education, 5’3″
      Lady Gaga, musician, 5’1″
      Dolly Parton, musician, 5′
      Kamala Harris, current U.S. Vice President, 5’2″

      You go, girl!

      3 years ago
  16. Mary Pat

    Challenges seem to have opened my mind. It seems like, for me, that is what happens. There are so many things that happen in my mind when I have a challenge….whether physical or mental….so this is how my mind works….basically, first there is the “No!”. That is where I am initially, at the start. When I give that room, I move to the softening. I look it all over after the “No”, but seems like I have to do the “No” first…. Then, and only then, my mind opens to look it all over…..it reminds me of an English book I used to read to my grandson called, We Are Going On A Bear Hunt, or something like that. The gist of it is you can’t go around it, or under it, you have to go through it…or something like that…..(he is 15 now, and he loved that book when he was probably around 4.) Anyway, I have to go through the challenge and see all the sides of it, then sit with it. Wait. Don’t rush because in doing that the new way and how to stand in it will appear. That is the best I can do to explain my process…..

    3 years ago
  17. Holly in Ohio

    I cannot say that the challenges of my life have always left me unscathed. Sometimes the challenges left me afraid and untrusting, and unable to sleep well, but I still try to unfold myself from this and have had some progress.

    But challenges have also given me good things: growth, some competence, compassion, and taught me not to swing like a pendulum with every life event but instead be steady, and for the most part a calming and encouraging influence on others. Challenges made me stretch my abilities beyond what I ever thought possible. Though some challenges injured me, others made me heal! A big one: parenting kids half grown already – because you have to get yourself together – for them. Challenges throughout my life have clarified what is important, and what is not really.

    I am sure I have missed some gifts in the challenges I have had, and hopefully I will continue to discover the gifts. The challenges themselves are quite flat. It is what we CHOOSE to do, to think, which feelings we feed, in face of those challenges, that makes the hills and valleys and sets the tone of our life. We can drown, or we can try to swim to shore. We can sit down and complain, or we can climb. We can go alone, or we can reach out a hand to another. The challenges are still there, but there is much we can do with it if we choose to, and gifts along the way. For the most part I am grateful for the challenges of my life.

    3 years ago
  18. Pilgrim

    Physical challenges have taught me to adapt and accept, and to keep trying and adapting as needed. A complete dietary overhaul over the last few years, with ongoing tweaks, as medical diagnosis has revealed the need. Accepting that walking is a gift when running is no longer possible. Being retired, I have the option to read the day and go from there. Over time, I have (mostly) learned not to beat myself up over limitations, to choose self-kindness over self-judgment.

    3 years ago
  19. DeVonna

    I’ve slowly learned to accept the things in life I hate. I hate that I was discounted and neglected as a vulnerable child. I hate that my beloved son drowned as a teenager. I hate that I have no contact with my youngest daughter and her precious boys. These are all things I can not change but they can change me. I hope that I am more compassionate because no one had compassion on me. I hope that I am more appreciative of the brevity of life. I hope that I am learning to yield to the decisions of others when it is within their right to make them. It’s all about gaining peace by letting go.

    3 years ago
    1. pkr

      Dear DeVonna, many blessings to you. Thank you for your thoughtful response. It is quite beautiful & humbling. Sending you a hug & love.

      3 years ago
    2. Maeve

      Thanks, DeVonna.

      3 years ago
    3. Katrina

      I’m learning the Serenity Prayer is not just for people with substance addictions. May it become your mantra as well.

      3 years ago
      1. Holly in Ohio

        I agree about the serenity prayer, Katrina. It is important for all of us.

        3 years ago
  20. SK

    The challenges I face are the ones with managing a positive attitude within my husband’s’ chronic depression. I stand tall with my own interests, verbal affirmation, meditations and acceptance of his state of mind on any given day or hour. I don’t take things personally and look for the best and rightness of the situation and my own response to it.

    3 years ago
    1. sparrow

      I am dealing with something very similar,
      dear SK,
      and this might be my most deeply concerning challenge for me today…
      I so want my husband to see the sun,
      and see what is beautiful in the world,
      but there seems to be little i can do.
      So I do,
      rather guiltily sometimes,
      I see the sun by myself,
      and love him in spite of his sharpness,
      but not sink down with him . . .
      I hope,
      as you might,
      that someday
      he will lift his eyes
      and see what he is missing.
      You are in my heart & in my prayers…
      this is not an easy path.

      3 years ago
    2. DeVonna

      I hope you also have the support of others in your life. NAMI has groups designed to offer just that to families of those with mental illness. I wish you all good things.

      3 years ago
  21. Mike S

    Challenges have taught me not to fight with a life but to go with the flow. Letting go has been a major lesson of the lower part of my life. It’s not giving up or even giving in. It’s a radical new understanding that so many things in our lives are not as important as we once thought.

    3 years ago
    1. Mary Pat

      Yes. Or, for me, those things in my life are not as important now as they once were…how we change, which is good! Thank you for the reflection….

      3 years ago
    2. Michele

      Your last sentences really resonates with me. Thank you:)

      3 years ago
  22. pkr

    Not really sure. In some ways I am surprised I am still standing after this recent spate of storms, which I am still in. Some days I feel like I will crumble. Some days I let the tears roll. Some days I feel lost. I must continue to dig deep & deeper in order to navigate all these challenges. I am learning to Trust. Faith over Fear. I know I must never give up. 🙏❤️🙏

    3 years ago
    1. Mike S

      Peace be with you.🙏🏼💕

      3 years ago
  23. sunnypatti48317

    They’ve taught me to trust my intuition more, to trust God more, and to always do the right thing for myself, even if someone else might get upset when I do. When I do those things, the results are always good. I didn’t used to stand up for myself in the past, and that was quite detrimental in many ways. Asking God to help me do right for me and then following thru on that helped me find a gentler path, for which I am grateful for every day!

    3 years ago
    1. Holly in Ohio

      That is very helpful, Sunnypatti. I really like that.

      3 years ago
  24. Anna

    Great question.
    I stand in a new way, surely.
    I will stand in a new way.
    But for the moment I don’t know how to answer to the question. I feel on the path of a discovery.

    3 years ago
  25. Dusty Su

    Ha, where do I even begin…?

    This needs and has its own blog post.

    3 years ago
  26. G
    Gregoire

    Challenges give us an opportunity to show ourselves what we are truly made of. We can fall the face of challenges and welcome the defeat or we can use it as an opportunity to recognize the end of our humanity and the beginning God’s greatest work in US.

    3 years ago
  27. Kevin

    Life challenges have taught me how to reach and eventually stand and walk for what I need. Life challenges have also taught me how-to run-in pursuit of my goals, and run from whatever would take me down. Paradoxically, my standing improves the more I sit down, and listen.

    3 years ago
    1. Mary Pat

      Love that last sentence. So true!

      3 years ago
  28. Michele

    I’m not sure about ‘new ways’ but challenges teaches us to learn from others, sometimes asking for help, digging deep within ourselves, and prayers/meditation.

    3 years ago

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