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  1. Marnie Jackson

    I most recently discovered the phrase ….”I get to….” so even in “bad times” I get to find the thing that I am going to learn and grow. It may be painful and hard, but adversity always helps me to be a more compassionate, empathetic person

    3 years ago
  2. M
    Mike

    By remembering that much of what is good in my life has come to me by grace, utterly undeserved; and that I will be given the grace to get through what is bad, even when I’ve brought that bad on myself. and my getting through it is equally undeserved.

    3 years ago
  3. Malag

    Sometimes the bad is just bad. Sometimes I see that some growth will happen, something different, something that acts on me and moulds me a bit different. And then there’s the contrast of experiencing something beautiful in the midst of heartache. Like the story of seeing the juicy strawberry within hands reach when your hands are otherwise occupied holding onto the edge of a cliff.

    3 years ago
  4. Nancy Walton-House63093

    Even in “bad times” I can recognize and savor my everyday blessings beginning with the realization that I am alive. I can remember that I have faith, a faith community, a family, friends and associates. I can remember that I have food, water, housing, heat or cooling when needed, healthcare, dental care, transportation, books, music, TV, films and the internet to expand and enrich my world. I have interesting and satisfying activities to do. I have treasured memories of people, pets, places and experiences I’ve enjoyed. I also have ways to give my time, talent and treasure to causes I support. There are so many gifts I’ve been privileged to receive. Deo Gratias.

    3 years ago
  5. Heather

    This is a struggle for me at times, especially since both my husband and myself have mental disorders. When I have a shred of mindset I do a grounding activity (which does have to do with gratitude). 5 things you can see, 4 things you can hear, 3 that you can touch, 2 things you can smell/taste.

    3 years ago
  6. d
    dcdeb

    There are always good things going on. It is very difficult for me to find the good things and can take some time, but since i know ahead of time that the good things are there i keep trying.

    3 years ago
    1. Holly in Ohio

      I like this, Deb. You know they are there, it is just a question of seeing it. Good thought.

      3 years ago
  7. Don Jones

    Personally, I feel gratitude is a state of being rather than an action. So, if I am grateful, it doesn’t matter what is going on around me.

    3 years ago
  8. O.Christina

    It was often the difficulties, which by overcoming them helped to develop an increasing inner knowing of being held in His Love no matter what troubled my heart. This was and is something of the most beautiful which could happen to me, but the process was not easy at all, in fact quite painful, and for the deep seated struggles it took a while. I guess it was not easy as well for the ones who had the will and the heart to confront me with what I could not see, for which I will be forever grateful towards the ones concerned. Finding strength to face inner despair, to observe it with compassion and to let go of these old phantoms which brought me to were I had landed became a door to gratefulness. Meditation was a huge help, and you all who share here, too. Beneath all I read here in your beautiful and warmhearted posts and and was taught or said by friends, I could sense what connects us all. And this comforted even in the most painful moments. May His beams soothe and radiate to the ones who struggle, may you sense it beneath all pain, may healing be on its way to all who suffer. For this I pray.

    3 years ago
  9. pkr

    My experience with “bad times”, & trust me I have had many, like many here, is that there is a lesson to be learned & there is growth. I am thankful for the opportunity to grow & to learn. I know easier said than done. I guess so much of it, life, is how we look at it. Our attitude is half the battle. Happy October to All. 🍁🍂🍁

    3 years ago
    1. Michele

      Happy October to you too! Love this month:)

      3 years ago
  10. Chester

    Be grateful for the strength to persevere and take the next step.

    3 years ago
  11. Carol

    I can be grateful in bad times when I remind myself that the biggest battles are always within. Mindset has a lot to do with choosing to respond instead of react to my life situation. When I’m feeling challenged and losing hope, I pray for wisdom–the willingness to learn from what is happening. Go with the flow. I don’t know if that is equivalent to being grateful for the bad times but by not labeling what is happening, I avoid seeing it as a problem.

    3 years ago
    1. Kevin

      A moto for daily living, here, Carol. Thank you!

      3 years ago
    2. Holly in Ohio

      That is lovely, Carol. I get several take-aways from that, and will be thinking about it today.
      Thank you.

      3 years ago
  12. sunnypatti48317

    Honestly, if I look at myself in the midst of any “bad” time, I can’t say I was practicing gratitude during them. But! Upon reflection, I always look for the lesson, for something to be grateful for. There have been times when the lesson takes days, even months, to reveal itself to me, but the good thing is that I’ve learned to practice gratitude daily, so I can always find something good in my life, even if it’s not stemming particularly from something happening to me in the now.

    3 years ago
  13. Carla

    When in the midst of a challenging event; I pause. Through prayer & meditation I’ve come to know & believe “this” too shall pass. This experience that I’m in may stretch me in ways I’d rather not grow. However, the God of my understanding does provide me with the tools & skills I need to walk through the rough time.

    3 years ago
    1. Carol

      The God of my understanding is an evolutionary god that wants me to evolve. Sounds like yours is, too.

      3 years ago
  14. Holly in Ohio

    First I had to learn that having a tragic life is not the kind of competition that I want to win. I’m embarrassed to say that, but it’s true that when I was a teen I fed the sadness, focused on the bad, and milked it for all the sympathy and love I could get. Only when I got sick of it did I start to learn.

    Then I went through a phase of, “Well at least it’s not worse.” There are people starving in __________, as our mother’s used to tell us when we didn’t want to eat what was for dinner. But comparisons are not comforting! Suffering dutifully through bad times is not comforting.

    At last I learned to look for the good around me and in life. I started to look at my power to comfort, to bring cheer, to give, to appreciate music or nature, to share a laugh, to love. It is here that I found reasons to be grateful, even when my friend was dying young, even when my daughter made poor choices, even when my health was bad, even when I was anxious. The march of life’s events continue, but gratitude and love are constants.

    Gratitude is a practice. It doesn’t fall in our laps because we are lucky. Rather, we are lucky, because we practice gratitude.

    love to all of you this morning. ❤

    3 years ago
    1. Kevin

      There’s a recovery phrase that goes: “I was sick and tired of being sick and tired,” that people who have made it through to a better place have used as a stepping stone and way out to a better life, that your story reminds me of, Holly. Thank you..

      3 years ago
      1. Holly in Ohio

        Yes, it does. 🙂 And as I look back, I could say that feeling sorry for myself was like an addiction. Thank you, Kevin. That’s very useful.

        3 years ago
    2. Carol

      Holly, Do you hear my “Amen!”

      3 years ago
      1. Holly in Ohio

        Thank you, Carol! 🌺

        3 years ago
  15. Cintia

    I pray for “One day at a time”.

    God! Just give me the strength to do everyday what I have to do… during bad or good times.

    3 years ago
  16. Mary Pat

    I am grateful in bad times to remember the thought that I know it is not going to last forever….it will pass…as one quote goes-Like a Kidney Stone, But It Will Pass-
    It is something I make sure I remember, that it is not a forever event. And it awakens me to see those around me who are willing to walk whatever road I am on alongside me. And they are not always the same people. It is a path, a journey. An adventure waiting for me to discover something new, maybe not fun, but something to learn that others can relate to…..so another connection to another soul…..

    3 years ago
  17. d
    db82258

    I was about to have a high risk surgery , followed by chemo and radiation. I had such simple thought, I was grateful that I had found happiness before going into all that was about to be done. Today I am still grateful, everyday is a blessing. 🙏

    3 years ago
    1. Holly in Ohio

      Wow. Blossom you are beautiful and you are so right! Thank you.

      3 years ago
  18. Nelson

    If it’s an event, I look for the helpers during times of crisis. If it’s something personal, I have to remember I’ve been through tough times before. I’ve always came out a stronger, wiser, more resilient person afterward.

    3 years ago
  19. Katrina

    I look for what I am learning. But sometimes that cannot be seen until the situation is long past. I had severe chronic migraines for years I was grateful for the days with no headaches, but that was about it. I was scared the rest of the time, and scared when I didn’t have a headache, because I knew another one was moments, or days away. What I learned is compassion for those with chronic health issues. They are real. I am grateful I learned that. But it was very difficult to be grateful in the midst of it all.

    3 years ago
    1. Kevin

      I certainly understand this, Katrina. Wishing you the very best of good health that is possible.

      3 years ago
    2. Linda

      I agree with Holly. I had migraines for years in my 20’s. No medications available at that time. They were miserable and lasted several hours. Recently they returned (40 years later!) but I now have a medication that stops them in their tracks. I am so grateful! I hope you have access to these now.

      3 years ago
    3. Holly in Ohio

      Dear Katrina, I used to experience migraines with regularity, I deeply sympathize! They can be quite debilitating! Please read all you can about migraines and work with your doctor. For me, water, nutrition, and stress relief were enough to bring it under control, but today they also have better medicines. They can do so much more now than they used to. I will add you to my prayers.

      3 years ago
  20. Patricia

    A little prayer we started with our first child was, “Dear God, thank you for today and all the things that happened today.” Some nights, it sticks in my throat… but it has reminded me to look for what is behind or inside some of the things I initially believe to be without value.

    3 years ago
  21. Maurice Frank

    I can remember and be grateful for the grace of impermanence: everything will change, whether I judge it as bad or good.

    3 years ago
    1. Linda

      That is so true, Maurice! Thank you for this reminder.

      3 years ago
  22. Maeve

    I could consider my current residence being put on the market by my landlord as something “bad.” But in actuality, it has been a wake up call for everyone in this house. All of us living here have been forced to stop being complacent and deal with our resistance to necessary change. It is forcing us to deal with our issues and resistance. And that is a “good” thing.

    3 years ago
  23. devy

    By looking around and focusing on what I have rather than what is happening to or around me. I’ll attempt to look at the bad times as being life lessons and understand that life is made up of ups and downs.. nothing is perfect… forever good times is not realistic . How we react to them and acceptance makes us appreciate more the good things happening.

    3 years ago
  24. EJP

    Hold tight to my faith during challenging times and remain grateful for all that I have and all that I am.

    3 years ago
  25. F
    Fat Toad95202

    They can show me that being negative will only tighten my bondage and I can choose to view them as an exercise to help me practice letting go I don’t think grasping is the way to real freedom and trans/ascendance

    3 years ago
  26. Michele

    By being grateful every day that covers bad times as well as good.

    3 years ago
  27. Kevin

    To be honest, I think that it’s difficult to truly feel grateful when experiencing bad or difficult challenges, because it’s just the way we’re wired as humans that all our energies are focused on the challenge at hand and little more. In my view, it’s a bit pollyannaish to expect otherwise. There’s plenty of time to summon up gratefulness once the crisis at hand has been controlled or mitigated. For myself, whenever I’m in the middle of dealing with some kind of crisis, what I do try to remember to do is pray. Pray for strength, pray for openings, and pray for whatever needs healing. That, in the middle of hard times, is what I am most grateful to have as a tool at my disposal.

    3 years ago
  28. Butterfly

    It’s hard to see beyond a bad/very difficult time when I feel overwhelmed by a situation. It so happens I am in one of those situations right now. But by trying to step back from it I can find many things to be grateful for. One of those things is having a laptop so I can come onto this site and feel comforted and inspired.
    Thank you to all who post xx

    3 years ago
    1. Kevin

      Hoping and praying for the best outcome that you’re dealing with, Butterfly, and that it comes soon.

      3 years ago
  29. Dusty Su

    “Thank God, it’s not always like this…” Something that passes my lips often.

    I read this story of a conversation between an optimist and a pessimist.
    P. I swear you’d have something good to say even about the devil…
    O. “Well, you have to admire his persistence!”

    So, there’s always a good in most things, even if only eventually, or it’s not always “like this…”

    3 years ago
  30. Christine

    I was deeply sad when I had to let go of Karel, but gratitude increased precisely because I had received so much that I can still enjoy today.
    I was so afraid of getting lonely without Karel, but love moved to my heart.
    It seems that especially in difficult times resilience, gratitude, love are the gifts that life grants you.💛

    3 years ago
    1. Maeve

      Thanks for sharing about Karel.

      3 years ago

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