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  1. s
    sb

    I have learnt, and am trying to accept, that I have always complained that my job takes too much time, plus housework and so on and so forth and that I never have time to relax – but, in fact, it seems to be my temperament to fill whatever time there is with things to do. My to do list just expands with the time available. If there is a gap, I find something to put in it! And I have discovered I don’t do relaxing! No sooner do I sit down, than I leap up to do something again! So it is just me, not external factors and I have to readjust my ideas about who I am and how I am. Having realised that, hopefully I won’t complain so much now about being overworked!!

    3 years ago
  2. Malag

    Lockdown has shown me that I like more human contact than I thought!

    3 years ago
  3. Kristi

    I’ve learned that I can be patient with my brothers and the payoff is huge! I’ve learned that I like being busy better than bored! I’ve learned that discussing politics with people who are far right or left depresses me- it is good to be knowledgeable but I’m learning to turn away from the extreme political discussions!

    3 years ago
  4. devy

    How strong a person I really am considering what I have gone through during my life. I’ve also learned that it is ok not to try to be perfect.. that’s what being human is all about.

    3 years ago
  5. KC

    ‘The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is mere tenacity’. Amelia Earhart. I am way more comfortable with meditation and reflection than with deciding to act and getting on with things – especially things that feel difficult, uncertain, unfamiliar scary or unappealing.

    3 years ago
    1. Courtnee

      This reflects where I am right now. So very true. Thanks for sharing.

      3 years ago
      1. KC

        🙏🏻🐌🌱

        3 years ago
    2. Antoinette

      I feel exactly the same way KC !

      3 years ago
      1. KC

        🙏🏻🐌🌱

        3 years ago
  6. Don Jones

    That when I look inside (an in-look), I cannot find a boundary or a limitation.

    3 years ago
    1. Holly in Ohio

      🙂

      3 years ago
  7. expati

    I am in the process of learning unconditional love and acceptance. This is about accepting everything. And I do mean everything. Not easy for me to do. I’ve looked at blocks to this, and find my inner child needs nurturing and acceptance to go further. And that my fears ultimately resolve to fear of death. I am working on this.

    3 years ago
  8. Cathie

    I learned that I may have blind spots when it comes to this shift in culture.

    3 years ago
  9. Mica

    I [re]learned yesterday that my back pain sometimes gets a lot less when I hang onto the top of a door frame and stretch myself out 😜😍
    Thanks to Sara, who learned that she loves yoga 💕

    3 years ago
  10. L
    Lauryn

    That I have the ability to recognize and stop the negative thoughts that habitually go through my head. It’s possible to get to the point wheee I’m focused and centered and aware. It’s possible for me to learn to anticipate the needs of others.

    3 years ago
    1. Holly in Ohio

      “That I have the ability to recognize and stop the negative thoughts..” ….that is HUGE, Lauryn! Brava!

      3 years ago
    2. Linda

      I have the same issue. I don’t know why I default to negative thoughts. I remind myself to come back to the present and breathe.

      3 years ago
  11. Chester

    My direction, or perspective, more than my position (or objective reality) dictates my personal reality. Ok, maybe not fully learned recently, but certainly reminded of this recently and regularly.

    3 years ago
  12. pkr

    I have learned I have inner reserves of strength, that I did not know I had. This “well” runs deep. I am thankful. 🙏✨🌟🙏

    3 years ago
  13. Toni

    I leaned that most people only think of themselves and when I see that I get resentful. I have reached out to a person with covid information that I thought would be useful only to find they already knew and did not think of telling me. This happened twice. I refused to believe she was selfish until she proved otherwise. Someone already gave me the heads up and I just thought he was being judgmental. Now I feel really sick to my stomach. I know the quote, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them”. by Mya Angelou. I just keep ignoring what I see and get hurt by the brunt of what I feel. I feel left out. It’s not a new feeling. I have been abandoned and used by people all my life. I can’t seem to learn this lesson. I don’t believe people are what they seem. Even when they prove otherwise. I don’t like what I feel right now. Sorry to be so negative. I know I can’t control people but I am disappointed by feeling not cared about especially by those I care about.

    3 years ago
    1. Michele

      I relate to this. Love that Mya Angelou quote:)

      3 years ago
    2. expati

      The only person who can validate your uniqueness and worth is yourself. If I were you I’d do self-love affirmations and/or find other ways to love yourself without reference to others. No one else has this type of investment in who you are or what you feel.

      3 years ago
      1. Antoinette

        Really good advice! I need to hear this too! Thank you!

        3 years ago
    3. Mica

      Dear Toni, feel free to be negative – gratefulness isn’t about ignoring part of who you are. hugs – 🫂 🤗

      3 years ago
    4. pkr

      Toni, sending you a big hug. I know how you feel, been there too, and it does not feel good. Yes, I have been reminded of Maya Angelou’s quote many times in my life. Hang in there, be nice to you. 🙏✨❤️

      3 years ago
  14. Sara

    I have learned that I love yoga and that I can take what I have learned on the mat, off the mat and use it in my daily life. For example, when I start to feel anxious I know that I can control my breath and feel at ease once again.

    3 years ago
  15. Holly in Ohio

    I have learned several things about myself just this morning, by reading the thoughtful answers here by our community from yesterday’s and today’s questions.

    I learned that I can probably use nature as a support for changes I wish to make in myself. As abstract as this sounds – I expect it will work. We are all a part of nature first, and learning to harmonize our human-ness with natural systems should give us the support and guidance we need.

    I learned that when (or before) I feel overwhelmed, I can find, name, or reinforce patterns that support me and that, in turn, will help me to be more consistent in my efforts.

    I realized that love asks me to accept myself just as I am, “warts and all,” but that change asks me to do better and transform. They are not in conflict, but instead create a balance.

    I learned that if I engage fully today, I will not be quite the same person this evening as I am this morning.

    Thank you, my gratitude family, for your sharing!

    3 years ago
  16. C
    Crystal Toledano

    I’ve learned that I’m a very wise person. Whenever there’s a challenging situation, I tend to think smartly before I make any decisions. Sometimes we want to make an impulsive decision but it’s not the healthiest thing to do. I try to use wisdom God to make these decisions. Because if there’s one thing for sure, wisdom comes from God

    3 years ago
  17. Patricia

    I’ve learned how quickly I can get triggered into a state of anxiety and worry about problems and issues my elderly dad is facing – and his growing stubbornness, making everything more difficult…. It’s what I pray each morning, that I can breathe in God’s Spirit of calm…

    3 years ago
    1. Holly in Ohio

      I had some very, very dear neighbors to me… Dave and Madeline. When I met them they were in their 80’s and Madeline had Alzheimer’s. Dave became her full time care giver. And Madeline got very stubborn, particularly about eating. I would watch them. Sometimes they would have arguments of sorts – as Madeline was losing her ability to communicate unless she was angry, and then all of a sudden her power of speech came back. It was hard for them both. But I learned from it that it must be very hard to be old and start to lose your power for even basic things. In a way, we start as children and end as children. Madeline once was a teacher, a leader, a mother, a traveler, an activist, and many other things, and now… she didn’t get to decide when and what to eat or whether to get dressed. I know this little story doesn’t change the realities of dealing with your father’s issues and stubbornness, but I hope it makes it a little more bearable. His stubbornness may not be reasonable, but it is what he has.

      I will be thinking of you, Patricia, and hoping your week goes more easily.

      3 years ago
      1. Patricia

        Thank you, Holly.

        3 years ago
  18. Carol

    “If you ain’t where you’re at, you’re no where.” Colonel Potter on MASH
    I made a major move in the spring of 2019. Several compression fractures in my back made it prudent to be closer to family members. My new physical limitations are a challenge and the drastic change in my physical appearance has made it impossible not to admit my vanity. This knowledge has been hard to accept. Then the Pandemic arrived in the spring of 2020. The isolation has really taken its toll on me. I’m tense most of the time and that increases my pain levels. These are hard truths to accept about myself because I know they are ego driven. But, I remind myself that there are two sides to the coin. This self-awareness has me praying for others more, meditating more. I’m to get my first shot of the Covid vaccine today. I’m not afraid of the shot but I’m nervous about the process of getting there and withstanding any waiting and delay. Standing for long periods is hard for me. Also, I’ve become quite a hermit so I telling myself that the necessity of this adventure is a good thing.

    3 years ago
    1. Patricia

      I am grateful with you for your Covid shot and hope you are feeling okay tonight after receiving it. Any temps or aches are normal. Be well and know you’ve got “peeps” out here who care!

      3 years ago
      1. Carol

        Patricia, Thanks….arms a bit sore but know that is to be expected. Appreciate your thoughtful message.

        3 years ago
    2. pkr

      Carol, praying for you. Be gentle with yourself. Hugs too…..🙏❤️

      3 years ago
      1. Carol

        Thanks for your prayers and your hug….both are appreciated and helpful.

        3 years ago
    3. Pilgrim

      Remember to be deeply kind to yourself, Carol. Anything you can do to relax a bit – watch a movie, read, sing (badly is fine) … these are hard times, and your physical suffering adds to your challenges. I’ll be holding you in prayer and light.

      3 years ago
      1. Carol

        Thank you so very much for your wise words and compassion. It helps.

        3 years ago
    4. Holly in Ohio

      Hurray on the Covid shot, Carol!!!!

      Yes, you have had quite a curve thrown at you recently, and you’re still trying to find your feet. But it will come, I have no doubt.

      I have often thought that we, as humans, generally don’t change a whole lot unless we HAVE TO. Life is giving you an extra large helping of “have to.” You had to move, you had to (I assume) give up work, some relationships, a number of activities, …probably many things. Your snow globe got well shook! One of the largest changes for you is being forced to pay more attention to your inner life. But now you get to decide all over again, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” That can be a bit exciting. It’s like a second life, to do things all over again… differently!

      Covid is like a pause. The whole world is getting a chance to reflect on what really matters and what, is instead, just NOISE. Let’s make it count for something, so that when the world restarts, we make things better. Love you, friend.

      3 years ago
  19. Katelyn Wehlauch

    I’ve learned that I love doing gratitude exercises first thing in the morning and I love this small community on gratefulness.org 🙂 It starts my day off well when the first thing I put into thought is the things I’m grateful for. I love reading everyone’s answers. Have a blessed day everyone!

    3 years ago
  20. k'Care-Reena

    Good day everyone!!! I noticed due to my connection with nature I have to treat myself as if i am child by protecting myself and SAY YES TO SELF. It all started because of the end of a trip as well as an end to a relationship. I found myself back in NY experiencing attacks w/ no money, insurance or let alone internet. After getting myself back on my feet the first avocado I had in NY I planted. I yearned to feel love and decided to have a plant. With caring for my Avocado plant I was able to trust in my process and have confidence after I was able to grow the plant before it is put in land. The plant fell over one night and dried out, I had to trim it, someone mistakenly put alcohol into the soil etc. I realized the strength it had and how myself a Human an able to do the same. I am on my 3rd Avocado plant, have Bell Pepper &, Lemon plants while propsering in my business one step at a time.

    3 years ago
    1. expati

      I love your story of self discovery via your plant! Thanks for sharing it.

      3 years ago
  21. Trish

    I’ve learned to be more in tune with my physical body. It sounds a bit funny but I’ve recently found out that when I don’t drink enough water my feet ache. It helps me to recognize the beauty of simplicity, like water…..

    3 years ago
  22. V
    Vincent-Edward Ciliberti

    Honestly, the older I grow the more conscious I become of how silly and erratic my behaviour when I was younger was. Nowadays I am still learning not to repeat past mistakes. or rather misgivings.

    3 years ago
  23. Kevin

    Recently, I have agreed to undertake new leadership responsibilities within two distinctly different organizations that I have been involved with for decades, both of which are dear to my heart. The additional work required in both also brings with it a measure of new authority in each organization as well. I am content with the additional anticipated work, but I had not considered the measure of authority that also comes with these new roles. After sitting with it all for a bit, I realize that I am also enjoying the newfound authority, such as it is.

    3 years ago
    1. Antoinette

      Hi Kevin. The world is a better place with you in it . You are supporting many and that’s wonderful and inspirational.

      3 years ago
    2. Holly in Ohio

      You will do wonderfully Kevin. The world needs more good-hearted leaders right now. I’m so glad you have these positions!

      3 years ago
  24. Antoinette

    Sometimes a few steps forward can also come with a few steps backwards.
    I need to speak more kindly to myself and show myself more compassion.
    Right now I’m learning that at this moment I have a lot of fear and loneliness present.
    I feel like I have studies hard and meditated but the fear and loneliness just doesn’t seem to go away. I feel ashamed of sharing this because it makes me sound like I’m feeling sorry for myself.
    I’m grateful for my family and friends. I’m grateful and fortunate in so many ways.
    So why do these feelings show up ?
    Thay teaches us to question ourselves by asking are you sure ? And what are you doing ? This is the mind of rumination.
    So to question these feelings and see they are real but are not true is useful.
    Opening up my heart right here right now feels so scary. The pain for the migraine I’m experiencing is challenging me and my awareness. Pain is always teaching me something new . How to be with the pain in the moment and not let it overwhelm me? Just by breathing and allowing and letting go. Over and over again with loving awareness.

    3 years ago
    1. Michele

      Healing prayers to you for the relief of your migraine.

      3 years ago
    2. expati

      Thanks for your deep sharing even in the midst of fear of consequences. If you have taken this step, you can take others. Please use this first step as a springboard to find others to talk to who will not judge you and your experiences. This is very important, in my opinion, for your transformation.

      3 years ago
    3. Kevin

      Dearest Antoinette, let me just say that I hear you and from a place within, I also understand. Fear and loneliness are very powerful entities that cannot be taken lightly, and you are right to consider them as such. Like pain, fear and loneliness also teach, but in their own time. Your words are safe in this space, Antoinette, and my prayers are with you moving forward. Breathe. Stay with your breath, and go gently my friend.

      3 years ago
      1. Antoinette

        Thank you so much Kevin . Each day I am trying and I appreciate this safe space and your help and caring words.

        3 years ago
  25. Michele

    I’ve learned that I can go from an 8 hr day to a 10 hr work day. It’s a little bit of a struggle, but to get that extra day off, it is worth it:)

    3 years ago
  26. Lioness

    That my best is all I can do and to accept that, but also forgive myself when I have done my best yet still feel I could have done better. My best is enough.

    3 years ago
    1. Antoinette

      Thank you for that . I need to say the same thing. Hugs to you .

      3 years ago
  27. Howie Geib

    It is with horror that I recognize racism within myself. I cannot help but wonder how much it influences my thoughts and actions on an unconscious level. I never seem to see it coming. I pray about it, and I am relieved to know it is there so as to sidestep it when possible. It saddens me.

    3 years ago
    1. Linda

      It is horrifying to realize that most of us carry racism within, much of it unconscious. I grew up in a prejudiced household and thought I had overcome that, but my grandson has pointed out several ways how systemic it is in many of us babyboomers, and that things I never even thought about before can now come across as racist and unconscious. It is important to recognize these things in us so that we can change them. Awareness is the first step, Howie. Thank you for sharing.

      3 years ago
    2. expati

      Do you see a connection of racism with classism?

      3 years ago
      1. Howie Geib

        I read your question hours ago while working and have had time to reflect on it. I don’t think so, at least in the way I think you mean. Of course they are similar hypothetically in the sense that they are sources of prejudice. But I do not see any indication in myself of being classist. I have always had cross class ability…in the sense that in many ways as a kid I grew up parts of the year as a poor kid (relative to others) and some as a rich kid. The most important people growing up, the ones I cared the most for and were seen by besides my parents were the people who worked for them…all not of our ‘class’. I have never been a snob. And the racism is much more organic (frighteningly) in the sense that it defies any logic. it is not blatant, or static in some behavior of mine or practice. It is a source of blindness. I think that is the best way to describe it. Patricia spoke to that quality as well below. The blindness causes limitations for me more than others perhaps.

        3 years ago
    3. Patricia

      Thank you for this, Howie. I believe that opening our eyes to our own often/usually/almost always! unacknowledged and unconscious white privilege is a huge first step. It has just been in the air for those of us who are white that we breathe and so we don’t “see” it …. A confessional attitude about this is one of things I try to practice in my life, too.

      3 years ago
    4. Kevin

      Those of us who are white, and privileged (including myself) have much work to do here, Howie. Recognizing my/our racism within is a first, big step. It’s probably “life work” actually, as I have been told by those I consider my teachers on this matter.

      3 years ago
    5. Antoinette

      Brave of you and kind of you to be open. This is the start of healing for us all. Thank you . Bless you .

      3 years ago

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