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  1. Malag

    I’ve become better at listening to the chatter in my head and not trying to change it.

    2 years ago
  2. diane venus

    I listened well today. I listened at my zoom meeting with my trustee and my therapist and when I heard something that was not true or out of bounds I immediately corrected it.
    I listen to my friend who has mental illness and her complaints and her stories about her life. Even when I try to speak about my life my day and she wanted to talk about her life her day I still listen to her.
    I listen to my ESL students carefully to see if they were pronouncing the words correctly and if they were choosing the correct answers. I listen to the tone of their answers to see if they were really getting it.
    Early in the morning I listen for the birds to hear the holy Spirit talking to me through them.

    2 years ago
  3. Bisnic

    Today, I try to listen to my self talk without arguing with myself or judging, just listening and acting on what I hear. I try to do the same with others, but its more difficult for me. But I’m proud of myself when I succeed. Being present is the key.

    2 years ago
  4. devy

    Listening to someone speak is something important that I need to work on. There are times when my monkey mind has taken over and because I am stressed I don’t hear everything being said. A means for me to focus on the present and to stop the ruminations is to listen to what’s going on around me… a cardinal chirping, the wind blowing through the trees, water lapping on a beach.

    2 years ago
  5. Don Jones

    The practice of listening to the sound of the bell – as it drifts off into the silence. But at the same time, let myself be immersed in the silence as it envelopes the listener.

    2 years ago
  6. Mica

    Listening with my ears, I hear the lawn mower and am glad my windows are closed to keep out the cut-grass air. Listening with my new hearing aid, I’m still learning when to use it and when not – not during my line dance classes, because the instructor speaks into a mike, which gives static.

    2 years ago
  7. Charlie T

    Every day, I attempt to listen without judgment or projection. This is nearly impossible for me, but when I become aware that I’m doing this, I try to re focus on what the other person is saying. Very much like meditation.
    All this talk of music has inspired me to set up my drums today and start playing them again. Thank you 🙏

    2 years ago
    1. Hermann-Josef

      Rhythm is most healing and can bring us in to a higher level of consciousness. Rhythm, sound, melody, harmony. Isn‘t it what the universe is made of? It’s all vibration. Though I sit for one hour early in the morning for my meditation practice, I wouldn‘t like to miss practicing music. I immediately can see the state of my mind, or lack of concentration while practicing music. You hear every wrong note or if you play boring. In so-called meditation you can sit for years building castles in the air. Meditation takes time, a lot of experience, and an attentive mind not to drift away. In music from the first moment you get an immediate result. And if you fall asleep you will hear the drumstick falling on the ground. What a good idea to make music. Have fun 👍

      2 years ago
  8. Chester

    As I have been preoccupied with what I want to communicate and express, I am likely falling short on my listening. Could it be that if we listen openly, the right form of expression will follow. Maybe expression is like exhaling and listening is like inhaling. When you inhale fully, exhaling takes care of itself. Maybe when we listen most fully, we will express most clearly.

    2 years ago
    1. Michele

      excellent comparison Chester!

      2 years ago
  9. Marnie Jackson

    My daughter is struggling through her first year of high school. I need to listen to what she is saying and not saying – and honour her experience and perspective – rather than trying to convince her of of my ideas

    2 years ago
    1. Mica

      Good plan, Marnie! – good luck 🙂

      2 years ago
  10. Carol

    When I read this question, I thought of my pastoral studies class on the Old Testament. I was taught that God is faithful and all God asks of us is to be obedient. The problem can be our understanding of the word “obedient.” We connect it with wrath and punishment but both the word “obey” and the word “obedient” come from the Latin word “obedire” which literally means “listen to,” but is often used to mean “pay attention to.” I have found that I listen more fully when I take time to Stop, Look, and Listen or as Psalm 46 says to Be Still and Know. For many years I tried to understand what God’s Will was and I finally realized that for me God’s will is that I deal in reality. That I grow in self-awareness; that I be willing to own my thoughts, actions and feelings. The 12-steps have been very helpful in that journey and also Toltec wisdom which teaches me to be impeccable with my word and use it in the direction of truth and love. It reminds me to take time to change my perspective and not always take the behavior of others personally, It urges me to be willing to walk in another’s moccasins. It warns me against assuming and urges me to ask my questions. And last but not least it reminds me to do my best under whatever my current circumstances are. In a nutshell I listen more fully when I am willing to pay attention. It’s taught me that I am trustworthy and so is Life when I don’t fight or flee from it.

    2 years ago
    1. Laura

      Thank you, Carol. I much prefer “listen to” rather than our modern definition of “do as your told.”

      2 years ago
      1. Carol

        Amen to that…

        2 years ago
  11. Little Creek

    Michele wrote,’To listen more fully one needs to be focused’. That statement resonated with me as I am trying to answer emails and messages with several windows open on my browser while my husband talks loudly on the phone nearby. My challenge is to learn to retain my focus in the midst of distraction.

    2 years ago
    1. Michele

      thank you:)

      2 years ago
    2. Mica

      How true, Little Creek! I try to remember not to read emails and such when I’m attending a zoom class or something 🙂 – it’s so tempting to do those things when the class gets just a bit boring..

      2 years ago
  12. alara

    I show up in that moment and just breathe, and listen, and breathe and listen ……. this is everything to me. I’m in awe!

    2 years ago
  13. sunnypatti48317

    I had a realization years back when I felt like I wasn’t being heard… I was not being a good listener, so of course I got what I gave. I have since made my best effort to be a good listener. To stop my inner citta and be fully present with whomever is speaking to me.

    Today, actually tonight, my husband and I will be listening to live music, and I’m so excited! One of our favorite bands is playing at the coliseum, and these ears and this soul is ready!

    2 years ago
  14. EJP

    I am listening today with full gratefulness, with my heart and soul. To listen more fully I will be silent and more present in the moment.

    2 years ago
  15. Laura

    This question reminds me of something I read years ago in a book by Henri Nouwen. He found himself mentally complaining one day about all the interruptions that were keeping him from his work: Adam, the young disabled man he cared for at the L’Arche community, was having a difficult day and needed extra attention; staff had questions; the phone was ringing; etc. Nouwen became irritable until it dawned on him that all the people and interruptions annoying him were actually his real work, not writing.
    Recalling that anecdote helps me focus on others, and in turn helps me listen more fully.

    2 years ago
    1. Mica

      Henri Nouwen is a good person to learn from, isn’t he, Laura?

      2 years ago
      1. Laura

        Yes, he is. I read several of his books years ago and was thinking that I’d like to re-read some of them.

        2 years ago
    2. Barb C

      This story resonates for me. My work life includes lots of meetings and I often find myself thinking of them as not giving me enough time to work. I have to remember that the meetings *are* my work as much as the thinking/analyzing deep work time.

      One of the things teleworking has allowed me to do is to turn some meetings into walking meetings by putting on my headset and going out the door. I listen more fully and deeply this way than if I’m at my desk tempted to “multitask”, which I know isn’t real and yet I’ll just do those few emails….and that other thing….and click on that link…. If I’m walking through the parks near my house I’m oxygenating and reawakening my brain and will be a better participant in the meeting.

      Cooking can work the same way. It gives me something I can do while listening, as long as it isn’t a new, complex recipe I have to think about. I have a 90-minute meeting today that’s perfect for one or the other of these. I always love eating that bowl of soup or muffin that’s the side effect of my meeting.

      2 years ago
      1. L
        Lauryn

        This is a great idea to start walking during meetings

        2 years ago
  16. LisaBeth

    Reading this question caused me to listen to the sounds of a distant train. I rarely notice this common background sound in my life. But it is very similar to what I listened to at night while falling asleep as a child, and listening now has given me a bit of inner peace.

    2 years ago
  17. Patricia

    I have been listening more to my body through yoga and meditation.

    2 years ago
  18. Kevin

    I love listening, and can always do a better job at doing so. Listening is free, educational, instructive, fun, and connects me with other people and other forms of life on the planet we share. When working with young people in counseling settings, doing crisis work or in pastoral care settings, remembering the old saying that, “80% of counseling is listening,” always resulted in better outcomes for the person I was with.

    2 years ago
  19. O.Christina

    Staying calm, possibly be still and listen with my ears and heart.

    2 years ago
  20. Antoinette

    I’m listening to this moment and going with the flow. The more I go with the flow the more grateful I am.

    2 years ago
  21. Michele

    At the moment, I am listening to the hum of the refrigerator and can hear cars driving outside. To listen more fully one needs to be focused. This makes me grateful that I can hear, not everyone can.
    Happy Friday ya’ll:)

    2 years ago
  22. Iamme

    I am listening to myself by journaling, meditating and being present. I could listen more fully through movement, creating and by observing how I react to my daily experiences, and by being present in the momentI can listen more fully to others by switching off from my inner dialogue and what I may be engaged in physically, and giving them and their words and how they are expressing themselves my full attention.

    2 years ago
  23. Hermann-Josef

    Keeping my inner and outer mouth closed. Keeping to be focused on listening. Like listening to renaissance music. There are so many voices, timbres and rhythm at the same time. Hearing it all. Recognizing inner silence,space and joy. . And again I am talking to much. Sorry

    2 years ago
    1. Christine

      To Much Talking? You? NO!!! I am glad you are here, Hermann-Josef.

      2 years ago
  24. Christine

    In an hour someone will come and sing with me. We are practicing for a performance that will take place soon. I am now arranging “Summertime” for flute and vocals. Normally I accompany with piano, but I want a bit of variety in the program. I’m not very good on the flute, so…. I’m going to listen to myself very carefully.
    How listen more fully? By using the ears of my heart.

    2 years ago
    1. Hermann-Josef

      It is a pity that I can‘t listen to your music. I am shure you are good enough on the flute. Summertime, when the living is easy…

      2 years ago
      1. Christine

        Good morning Hermann -Josef, And how I would love to hear your music. I am an amateur with a huge passion for music. I think I live my passion. The best thing is that you can make music with others and also share it with others. I share that in nursing homes. I always get happy faces in return. And…….. music is a universal language. 💞

        2 years ago
        1. Hermann-Josef

          Christine. It makes me so happy to reed your lines. Yes to make make music together is an incomparable experience. Singing or clapping with elderly or sick people is the best thing we can do to bring happiness and aliveness into their day. I did that also for a while. By the way my musical skills are very rudimentary. But it doesn‘t matter. If a daisy wants to be a rose, drops of its leaves and so on, all its beauty is gone. It should try to be a beautiful , shining daisy and everything is perfect. My music teacher said: be happy that you are allowed to make music. With any note you sing or play, you move one step closer to god. Music is a universal language. I thank you from my heart Christine. Have a good session..🎶💕

          2 years ago
          1. Mike

            I, too, have just rudimentary skills in music. I play the bass and have so missed playing with people during the pandemic. I can imagine joining Summertime with a simple bass line. Music is indeed a universal language. I often think of the lines from the poet T.S. Eliot who said this about the effect of music: “music heard so deeply, that you are the music, as long as the music lasts.”

            2 years ago
          2. Christine

            🌷🤗

            2 years ago

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