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  1. Nicki

    By showing up.

    2 years ago
  2. Cathie

    I care for myself when I participate in morning prayer, , meditate and practice yoga! Then I am ready and have filled my “tank” so to better care for my mom and those around me!

    2 years ago
    1. Malag

      Yes I like the “filling the tank” metaphor. I’m not effective to me or others when it’s empty.

      2 years ago
  3. mam_gigi

    I need to offer more patience and grace rather than judgment. Look for and point out the positives instead of seeing only flaws. This is both in myself and others. I can be overly critical, and I can also become resentful of others, sometimes by assuming their negative intent rather than the positives.

    2 years ago
  4. O.Christina

    For the moment being, it was listening and sharing with someone who is currently undergoing a lot of outside and inside change and emotional turmoil due to the loss of a close relative, and now I simply will take good care of myself and will go to bed (in a timely manner) 🙂

    2 years ago
  5. Don Jones

    Being aware:
    Of those things which are within my domain,
    And those that are not.
    For those within my domain,
    Be encouraging and nourishing (like watering the garden).
    But never seek to impose my will or views on others.
    For those things outside of my domain,
    Never play on the highway.

    2 years ago
  6. Mica

    By reminding myself that, if I get angry about something, I’m hurting myself, and my mind will work worse at dealing with the problem I’m angry about!

    2 years ago
  7. pkr

    Practicing kindness.

    2 years ago
  8. Jp

    The most beneficial thing I can do right now is work on filling myself up each and every morning. Filling myself with gratitude, love, peace, stillness, and the courage to have faith. In doing so is the only way I can ensure the spirit I wish to release to the universe is one of pureness and excellence.

    2 years ago
  9. c
    carol

    by taking steps to improve or expand my capacity for mindfulness, generosity, compassion, and patience.

    2 years ago
  10. Charlie T

    I care for myself by taking care of myself, and as for others, helping when I can, listening without judgment or projection.
    As for “showing” how I care for myself, I’m trying to keep these things I do, on the down low. I’ve noticed that when talking about this, I can see people think I’m judging them or it makes them feel awkward or maybe they think I’m bragging.
    When the reality is, I’m learning to do what is required for me to be in this world out of necessity.

    2 years ago
  11. Hot Sauce

    Right now, I am caring for myself by committing to running everyday. I am showing care for others right now by searching for temporary part-time employment so my parents are not burdened by my expenses.

    2 years ago
  12. Diane

    Such beautiful, thoughtful responses. There are so many practical ways we can care for others and it most assuredly starts with caring for ourselves first. (I’m reminded that when you are on an airplane you are instructed to put the oxygen mask on yourself first…only then can you help others). I can only add to all that has already been shared, that I am a deep believer in the power of prayer, especially meditative prayer. Years ago, I learned the loving-kindness prayer in the Buddhist tradition and I employ it often. You start by praying for yourself, then loved ones, aquaintances, those who are suffering in this world, and finally in a generous and sacred act of grace, you pray it for those who have wounded you. Sharing it with my gratitude. ♥
    “May I (he/she/they) be filled with loving-kindness.
    May I (he/she/they) be well
    May I (he/she/they) be peaceful and at ease
    May I (he/she/they) be happy and safe. “

    2 years ago
    1. Michele

      Thank you Diane for sharing the poem:)

      2 years ago
  13. Pilgrim

    Kindness all around.

    2 years ago
    1. Mica

      Thank you, dear Pilgrim – that’s the Dalai Lama’s ‘religion’. Warm wishes to you –

      2 years ago
    2. Diane

      Good morning Pilgrim: Yes…kindness is quite simply the answer. Have a blessed day friend ♥

      2 years ago
      1. Pilgrim

        Good morning, Diane. Thank you for the Buddhist prayer of kindness, and always for your wisdom. Blessings to you and your family, my friend!

        2 years ago
  14. Barb C

    At work, by scheduling vacation for myself that I don’t then undo by deciding meetings are more important than refreshing/recharging, and by encouraging the people on my team to do the same.

    By following through on some things that have dangled undone for far too long, which creates stress for others wondering what’s happening and stress for myself from knowing they’re still dangling. We’ll both get the gift of resolution and relief.

    2 years ago
  15. alara

    As I sit with the questions of late they seem to reveal layer upon layer that I have not seen. Sometimes it is daunting and overwhelming. (Just like the world that shouldn’t be but is).
    Then, I hear Br. David saying today is a gift; everything is a gift, today. I choose to accept this in my heart right now, and I move into my day..

    2 years ago
  16. devy

    By being kind, compassionate and loving to myself. By doing so, I can then spread the same to others. Sometimes we act these ways to others yet treat ourselves badly. One has to look after oneself.

    2 years ago
  17. dragonfly

    By creating a stillness and peacefulness within myself that makes it possible to be attuned to what presents itself at each moment, so that I am able to see, hear and feel what is required of me right there and then and act accordingly with patients, calmness and kindness. This is, as so many other things in my life, a work in progress.

    2 years ago
  18. sparrow

    I think
    that by genuinely caring for myself,
    I am actually caring for others as well . . .
    what goes around
    comes around.
    It’s easier for me
    to care for others,
    reaching out,
    making connection,
    than it is to take the time to care for myself.
    I feel more genuine
    when I look after my needs,
    so that helps me do the work.

    2 years ago
  19. Mary Pat

    By taking care of myself. That is not easy for me, but I try every day. Today it would mean doing all of my physical therapy. Walking the dog, because that helps me and the dog. Working-and it is work-on my insomnia. And some meditation to start it all off…

    2 years ago
  20. Holly in Ohio

    I like this question because it asks how to care for myself AND others. So often it feels like we are in an either/or situation, but perhaps it needn’t be so.

    At the beginning of the year I set an intention to be better at self-care this year, and defined for me what my self-care requires. It includes caring both for my physical health and my mental health, so for instance, for me, it includes eating more vegetables and having some time every day to create.

    As I have improved on this a little bit, I have been rewarded with energy and joy, and this definitely is of benefit to my family. I find I want to do more for them, so the family as a whole has a healthier dynamic. I found also, I can get back to supporting my community in little ways. It is easier to show caring for others, when we feel we have a little caring for ourselves, from our self, and I think that is key. From there, it just seems to flow naturally.

    2 years ago
    1. Diane

      Good morning Holly…so nice to see you in this space. I love your new year’s intention! Blessings ♥.

      2 years ago
      1. Holly in Ohio

        Thank you, Diane! Your friends in the lounge are making space for you and our other friends to find each other on Prayer Tuesdays. ❤

        Blessings to you, too!

        2 years ago
  21. P
    Penny

    The wisest person I know once said ”Do unto others as you would have them do unto you”. I do not find this always an easy thing…for me I have to remind myself to do this. I can so easily get caught up in my life that I need to intentionally look outward and wonder, if I were them, what would I need?

    2 years ago
    1. Laura

      Penny, I also like the inverse to this: Do for yourself as you would do for others. Often we are much kinder, more patient and understanding to others than we are to ourselves. Blessings to you.

      2 years ago
    2. Mica

      Thanks, Penny – and that means ‘doing unto others as they would like to be done unto,’ because they might not like being done unto the same way you’d like being done unto!

      2 years ago
      1. P
        Penny

        You know, I thought that as I wrote it! I agree completely Mica, everyone is different, and just because I like something doesn’t mean they would. The intention of that beautiful verse that I quoted is exactly as it is written: to do unto others as we’d have them do to us, to practice empathy, to look out and put ourselves in someone else’s place, to look at their specific needs…feeling the need as our own.

        2 years ago
        1. Mica

          Thanks, Penny – indeed, a full understanding of the famous quote is that we treat people with empathy and compassion, isn’t it?

          2 years ago
          1. P
            Penny

            Yes, Mica, exactly. Empathy and compassion. 🙂

            2 years ago
  22. Marnie Jackson

    By understanding that behaviour is a symptom – it is not something to judge people by but an indicator of how they are feeling. Looking below the surface will help me understand where they (and me) are coming from and have compassion for their lives

    2 years ago
    1. Holly in Ohio

      Thank you, Marnie. I will try to keep that in mind. 🌼

      2 years ago
  23. Laura

    Right now I’m trying to honor all of my feelings. A neighbor’s tree fell on my house yesterday while I was at work. Anger, disbelief, disquiet at the disruption to my life. No power so I can’t stay in the house and don’t know when I can go back. A crane is needed to lift the tree off the house. But grateful that I was not home at the time and that I didn’t have pets or kids at home. Grateful also for the several neighbors who called immediately to make sure that I was OK.
    I’m trying to stay in the moment and allow my feelings and the whole after-process to unfold.

    2 years ago
    1. sunnypatti48317

      Dear Laura, I’m sorry you have to go through this, and can’t even imagine how it really feels for you. I’m grateful no one was home when it happened, and I pray that this gets cleaned up and settled in a smooth way. I pray for your peace of mind as well.

      2 years ago
    2. Michele

      I’m sorry you’re having to deal with this unexpected emergency right now. This is an important reminder to have trees pruned. Prayers for patience and strength in the days ahead.

      2 years ago
    3. Hermann-Josef

      These are really shocking news Laura. I don‘t know what to say. May Angels embrace you with there love and help. My prayers are with you. Be strong. You are much bigger than all feelings and emotions . Let them come and let them go. Better times will come for shure.

      2 years ago
      1. Laura

        I appreciate your helpful words, Hermann-Josef. It’s good to be reminded that feelings don’t define us.

        2 years ago
    4. Mica

      Good Grief, Laura!! A neighbor recently drove her car so hard into my car in its parking space that my car may be totaled, but your experience is so so much worse. Some years ago, a eucalyptus tree fell onto the bed in the bedroom of an apartment in Isla Vista, next to the UC Santa Barbara campus. Thankfully the residents weren’t in the bed at the time. Hugs and many warm wishes to you as you deal with this sad and difficult circumstance!

      2 years ago
      1. Laura

        Thank you, Mica. One moment, one hour, one day at a time …

        2 years ago
    5. Diane

      Dear Laura….I’m so sorry this happened to you! I am inspired by your faithful practice of gratitude even in this very trying circumstance. Thank you for sharing with us…and yes, please hold all that you are feeling with loving-kindness. Blessings ♥

      2 years ago
      1. Laura

        Thank you for your kind words, Diane.

        2 years ago
    6. Charlie T

      Wow Laura! So sorry to hear about your house and the unfortunate tree incident. I’m impressed that you still chose to come here and share this during what is a very stressful moment and that you can still express gratitude. Thank you for sharing your process.

      2 years ago
      1. Laura

        Your words provide a lift, Charlie. Thank you. I always enjoy reading your thoughtful posts.

        2 years ago
      2. alara

        Charlie, I appreciated your thoughts this morning.

        2 years ago
    7. sparrow

      That is something that most certainly has challenged your sense of gratitude,
      dear Laura,
      and I am sorry to hear this disheartening news . . .
      but yes,
      it will get sorted out in time.
      I wish you patience and equanimity throughout this process
      with love…
      sparrow ♥

      2 years ago
      1. Laura

        Thank you, Sparrow, for the affirmation and good wishes.

        2 years ago
    8. Holly in Ohio

      Oh Laura, I’m sorry to hear about the tree. This will get sorted. I hope it will not be too inconvenient, and more like an adventure. Best wishes.

      2 years ago
      1. Laura

        Thank you, Holly. Yes, it will get sorted in its own time. Just trying to go with the flow of it all.

        2 years ago
  24. EJP

    With unconditional love and a large amount of patience.

    2 years ago
  25. Antoinette

    Kindness is always the best way. Do everything with kindness.

    2 years ago
  26. Michele

    No negative self talk, be a good listener.

    2 years ago
  27. Kevin

    By being present where I am, by truly listening and affirming the “place” where others are at in the given moment, and helping to lighten their load as way may open. This practice, prayerfully undertaken, is caring for self and completes my humanity.

    2 years ago
  28. sunnypatti48317

    It’s 3:15 in the morning, and I have to be at work at 5…which is way earlier than normal, but I’m in charge of a reset in my department. I am showing care for myself by practicing gratitude, having already meditated. I do this every morning, no matter what. I’m caring for the others in my home by being quiet while I do it! The dog is snoring right now. Have a good day, y’all 🙂

    2 years ago
    1. Mica

      You, too, dear sunnypatti!

      2 years ago
    2. Kevin

      You too, my friend, and have a good day at work.

      2 years ago

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