I set the same intention every day . . .
to be mindful,
kind,
compassionate,
and open.
Most days
go well,
others not so much.
I just do my best,
and try not to beat myself up
on those ‘not so much’ days. ♥
ps. After reading both Carol’s and Nanette’s posts,
I think I need to set a new intention,
or one I haven’t been paying much attention to,
and that is to surrender . . .
let go of my perceived need to control . . .
It is later in the afternoon now…and I am just reading today’s question. I have been traveling…My husband and I started our winter journey later this year. I had several doctor’s appointments (post heart attack)…and it was snowing like the dickens and so cold and my dog, Clancy took a turn for the worst…the very worst, We had to say goodbye to him 8 days ago…and our hearts will be broken for some time. Due to the snow ans cold it was difficult to leave home as the motorhome does not do well in snow and ice….and we live in a “holler”..in North Central WV…home to lots of hills. I am always nervous when we set out. This year I am trying to just enjoy my time- and stop worrying. As I was saying and listening to prayers this morniing (Hallow app)…so many things I heard rang true to me… I am not in control…there is a God and he is the one who loves me and cares for me. I can fight it all but it is “his will be done”. I am good with that. My intention is to Let Go and Let God. Something that I have never been able to do…I always seem to want to be in control…and I cannot be- it just is not possible or good for me. I am glad to see all those that I have come to love on this site. Just seeing your names fills me with joy.
Oh Nannette, I’m so sorry you had to let your Clancy go. You shared such great love, and it will be in your heart forever. I know how hard it is to lose a pet, and that’s a tough grief to go through. Sending you love and comfort. And safe travels!
My deepest sympathies on the loss of your beloved Clancy. I know how much you loved him. May your memories make you smile.
Safe travels to you too on your winter journey.
I’m so very sorry to hear that you had to let go of Clancy,
dear Nanette . . .
I know this grief well.
One of my cat companions
is nearing the end of her life too,
and I’m already preparing myself for that event,
I hope your winter travels
help to ease the pain.
Yes,
it’s hard to surrender to the fact
that none of us
really control our lives . . .
a hard one for me as well,
even though it is the best way
to ride the waves . . . ♥
To take brief walking breaks as I tackle several deadlines and things that require thought so I tend to dig in rather than remembering the breaks will help me feel and do better.
My Ngoc, I remember commenting on Charlie’s answer concerning this topic. Since I’ve talked a lot about my ball movement system, flow is the core value. Organizing what to say stops the flow. That’s similar to ball-hogging.
Our words are always there. They’ll come. Less is more. Less effort becomes greater outcomes.
I did something that was very mindless and now I am paying the consequences.
My intention for today is to be very conscious of what I do. Another intent is not to be too hard on myself.
Not being so hard on myself is my biggest challenge.
Well, maybe right along with staying present in the moment.
Be good to yourself, and I will try to do the same.
I would like to focus (key word being focus)
on being in the present moment.
Several posts from yesterday were helpful to me
in grasping how to stay present.
I will probably refer back to them today.
So here goes.
Today I will give it a try.
♥️
Yes, it’s a focused gaze to help control your attention. It’s a great tool to help with practice on the mat, but – as with everything else in yoga – it helps with clarity off of the mat, too. There is so much wisdom in yoga!
My intention I set for today is to be more aware and attentive, be still and listen to my creator and the Divine within me, around me and other beings and act mindfully. Thank you, creator, for listening, guide me to meet this day’s intentions and yours for me, for all beings who for their support this day.
“Only that day dawns to which we are awake.” Henry David Thoreau
I love this quote because for me it speaks Truth with a capital T. To be awake, I have to be “present.” I am literally called to be “presence.” So that is the intention I set today and everyday.
I share a post from my 2019 journal (We are Life) that includes an article by then executive director of gratefulness.org, Kristi Nelson. Such a powerful article that I found extremely helpful so I copied it to my 2019 journal and wish to share it with you today.
Morning Meds, May 13 2019 We are Life
There is a short essay below. It is a beautifully written reminder filled with the wisdom of “going with the flow,” of “expecting what you need” not what you think you need; It is a reminder that life is trustworthy. I’ve been in my new home for about two weeks and am learning so much about myself from this experience. As Br. David says in this essay, “Deep trust in life is not a feeling but a STANCE that you deliberately take. It is the attitude we call courage.” Yes, it’s the attitude of gratitude. As Matthew Fox says in his book “Meditation with Meister Eckhart”
“The Word of God
Is always “In the beginning.”
And this means it is always in the process of being born
And is always already born”
Life is process not product and we are LIFE!
DEEPENING OUR COMFORT WITH UNCERTAINTY By Kristi Nelson, Executive Director Gratefulness.org
“You do not need to know precisely what is happening, or exactly where it is all going. What you need is to recognize the possibilities and challenges offered by the present moment, and to embrace them with courage, faith, and hope.” ~ Thomas Merton
I used to put myself to sleep by repeatedly reciting a little mantra that helped me transition from active days to hopes for a calm mind at night: “There is nothing to do, nowhere to go, nothing to know.” Guiding myself into greater comfort with not knowing was always helpful in reassuring my mind that it could truly rest and take a break from trying to plan and figure everything out. It seemed that where my mind could lead, my body would follow, and so I could slip into the sweet embrace of sleep.
There is much to discover that can surprise us, so much to which we can gratefully yield, so much permission to let go of our need to know or control what will happen.
In our daily lives, there are endless forms of uncertainty — far more things we cannot know than know. Objectively, this could be cause for great delight, wonder, and surrender. We could be relieved and appreciative that we do not have to perpetually hold onto the steering wheel, captain the ship, drive our lives. There is much to discover that can surprise us, so much to which we can gratefully yield, so much permission to let go of our need to know or control what will happen. And yet when we experience the presence of true uncertainty in our lives, it can be rattling. It goes against the conditioning most of us have internalized that not knowing is threatening — that it must be hidden or overridden, solved or resolved, as quickly as possible.
For everyone alive now, and for everyone who has ever lived, we are united in the fact that life invites us to show up again and again into mystery. There are no guarantees — only exquisite unknowns. We do not know exactly how or when we will die, and there is no single formula for how best to live. We do not know how life is going to unfold — in the grand scheme and also in its minutiae — and we cannot be in charge of most all of it. This freedom from control can either shrink our perspective to the size of a clinging fist or deliver us readily into the gaze of the cosmos, depending on how we approach life in the moment. Much of our freedom depends on cultivating greater perspective about being with uncertainty, however and whenever we can.
As we meet the uncertain world with grateful and wholehearted presence, our inner life and spiritual life are unfathomably enriched.
When we practice grateful living, we create a welcoming space for the surprise of uncertainty, knowing that it arrives naturally in each of those moments when we truly take nothing for granted. Without expectations, life is one surprising unfolding after another. The exact nature of the surprises that arrive in our lives is not up to us, but the nature of our response to surprise is ours and ours alone. Each time we let go and welcome life instead of holding onto our ideas about it, we receive reinforcement for our willingness to surrender to vastness rather than trying to resist it. The rewards of this shift are ever-available to us and make the risks ever-worthwhile, as they deliver the gifts of greater ease, resilience, and joy. As we meet the uncertain world with a more grateful, trusting presence, our inner life and spiritual life are unfathomably enriched. As Br. David Steindl-Rast says, “Deep trust in life is not a feeling but a stance that you deliberately take. It is the attitude we call courage.”
It seems we could benefit from learning to bring more of the intentions and prayers we use to guide ourselves to sleep at night to help guide us in how to be truly AWAKE to our days. At night, we soften into the impending unknown of sleep by encouraging our minds to be fully in the moment, to let go, to trust, to surrender. Perhaps if we allowed ourselves to remember this practice of release — and that there truly, often is nothing to know — in the fullness of how we live out our days, we might find ourselves more available to life, and life infinitely more available to us.
Mary, I think Br. David is saying that it is a stance you choose. It’s about HOW not so much WHY. In my own case, I found that when I trust Life, I am able to trust myself. Until I began to trust life, to believe that I would be shown a way, I spent a lot of time mentally in the past or the future and I learned that I go there alone because the strength I need is always in the NOW. When I am in the past or the future, I am not able to be present to “what is” nor do I deal with it very well. The wholeness Beatrice spoke of in the quote I shared on January 14th is not there because I am trying to control something I can’t control. My mind is split. As Kristi says, “As we meet the uncertain world with grateful and wholehearted presence, our inner life and spiritual life are unfathomably enriched.” I’ve found that a good definition of Grace. Sincerely, Carol
What makes sense to me is that trusting life means believing that I will be shown a way.
Yes, that resonates with me. I get that. Thank you, Carol. This concept has troubled me, but I feel better about it now. Thank you. ♥️
Charlie, most of us struggle with active listening. Even I’m still working on that. It’s easy to fall into 1 of 2 categories.
A. We listen to speak our minds.
B. We feel the need to listen to everything all the time.
I’ve experienced both places. B is worse. It feels heavy. We end up on the undesirable pleaser path. We start getting into a habit of giving from an empty cup.
Yes, it comes down to the “Work smarter; not harder” saying as usual. I’ve learned to expect nothing in return. Active listening feels normal. That’s its original purpose.
Shunryu Suzuki has an entire chapter from “Zen Mind, Beginner’s Mind” dedicated on the concept of expecting nothing in return. He calls it “Nothing Special.” He talks about being free from agendas and not having the idea of gaining something when we do a task.
I intend to be fully present as I go through the day. I have a zoom class on the yoga sutras this morning and intend on participating and taking all of the knowledge I can from the teacher and other students. And I intend on speaking to people as I attend a new yoga class this evening. This will be my second class there, and I’m so excited because I think I found a studio that resonates.
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Face what I have been avoiding and breathe.
Just to continue having positive thoughts when life becomes difficult.
To do what has been left over and to go to bed in time. May you all have a good nights sleep and be blessed.
Thank you and you also dear Ose.
I set the same intention every day . . .
to be mindful,
kind,
compassionate,
and open.
Most days
go well,
others not so much.
I just do my best,
and try not to beat myself up
on those ‘not so much’ days. ♥
ps. After reading both Carol’s and Nanette’s posts,
I think I need to set a new intention,
or one I haven’t been paying much attention to,
and that is to surrender . . .
let go of my perceived need to control . . .
It is later in the afternoon now…and I am just reading today’s question. I have been traveling…My husband and I started our winter journey later this year. I had several doctor’s appointments (post heart attack)…and it was snowing like the dickens and so cold and my dog, Clancy took a turn for the worst…the very worst, We had to say goodbye to him 8 days ago…and our hearts will be broken for some time. Due to the snow ans cold it was difficult to leave home as the motorhome does not do well in snow and ice….and we live in a “holler”..in North Central WV…home to lots of hills. I am always nervous when we set out. This year I am trying to just enjoy my time- and stop worrying. As I was saying and listening to prayers this morniing (Hallow app)…so many things I heard rang true to me… I am not in control…there is a God and he is the one who loves me and cares for me. I can fight it all but it is “his will be done”. I am good with that. My intention is to Let Go and Let God. Something that I have never been able to do…I always seem to want to be in control…and I cannot be- it just is not possible or good for me. I am glad to see all those that I have come to love on this site. Just seeing your names fills me with joy.
So, so sorry for your loss. Clancy runs through your memories now.
Very glad to see your post–we’ve missed you.
I wish you beautiful travels. Clancy will be with you forever.
Oh Nannette, I’m so sorry you had to let your Clancy go. You shared such great love, and it will be in your heart forever. I know how hard it is to lose a pet, and that’s a tough grief to go through. Sending you love and comfort. And safe travels!
My deepest sympathies on the loss of your beloved Clancy. I know how much you loved him. May your memories make you smile.
Safe travels to you too on your winter journey.
I’m glad to “see” y0u, too.
Wonderful to see you, Nannette!
I’m so sorry you lost Clancy.
I know you gave him a very good life. ♥️
Control is a tough one for me.
I like the saying- Do your best, let God do the rest.
Seeing your name here today made me so happy.
Sending my love. ♥️
RIP Clancy
I am so sorry to hear about your beloved Clancy dear Nanette.
Nannette, Safe travels…So sorry to hear about Clancy. Sending loving energy your way.
I’m so very sorry to hear that you had to let go of Clancy,
dear Nanette . . .
I know this grief well.
One of my cat companions
is nearing the end of her life too,
and I’m already preparing myself for that event,
I hope your winter travels
help to ease the pain.
Yes,
it’s hard to surrender to the fact
that none of us
really control our lives . . .
a hard one for me as well,
even though it is the best way
to ride the waves . . . ♥
To take brief walking breaks as I tackle several deadlines and things that require thought so I tend to dig in rather than remembering the breaks will help me feel and do better.
To treat my body with kindness, especially my stomach. It is reacting to the stress in my life, and I want to soothe it rather than add to the stress.
May your tummy settle down…Stress and digestive issues go hand in hand.
So true, Carol. Thank you for your good thoughts.
Listen with all ears. Get rid of organizing what to say next.
Love this, Ngoc.
I’d like to focus on listening too.
My Ngoc, I remember commenting on Charlie’s answer concerning this topic. Since I’ve talked a lot about my ball movement system, flow is the core value. Organizing what to say stops the flow. That’s similar to ball-hogging.
Our words are always there. They’ll come. Less is more. Less effort becomes greater outcomes.
I did something that was very mindless and now I am paying the consequences.
My intention for today is to be very conscious of what I do. Another intent is not to be too hard on myself.
Wishing you grace, YRAM.
Not being so hard on myself is my biggest challenge.
Well, maybe right along with staying present in the moment.
Be good to yourself, and I will try to do the same.
I would like to focus (key word being focus)
on being in the present moment.
Several posts from yesterday were helpful to me
in grasping how to stay present.
I will probably refer back to them today.
So here goes.
Today I will give it a try.
♥️
Your focus makes me think of the drishti in yoga. May we all be able to stay in the present moment 🙂
Hi Sunnypatti.
I had to look that up, focused gaze,
learning to focus in yoga,right?
Interesting!
☀️☀️☀️
Yes, it’s a focused gaze to help control your attention. It’s a great tool to help with practice on the mat, but – as with everything else in yoga – it helps with clarity off of the mat, too. There is so much wisdom in yoga!
My intention I set for today is to be more aware and attentive, be still and listen to my creator and the Divine within me, around me and other beings and act mindfully. Thank you, creator, for listening, guide me to meet this day’s intentions and yours for me, for all beings who for their support this day.
“Only that day dawns to which we are awake.” Henry David Thoreau
I love this quote because for me it speaks Truth with a capital T. To be awake, I have to be “present.” I am literally called to be “presence.” So that is the intention I set today and everyday.
I share a post from my 2019 journal (We are Life) that includes an article by then executive director of gratefulness.org, Kristi Nelson. Such a powerful article that I found extremely helpful so I copied it to my 2019 journal and wish to share it with you today.
Morning Meds, May 13 2019 We are Life
There is a short essay below. It is a beautifully written reminder filled with the wisdom of “going with the flow,” of “expecting what you need” not what you think you need; It is a reminder that life is trustworthy. I’ve been in my new home for about two weeks and am learning so much about myself from this experience. As Br. David says in this essay, “Deep trust in life is not a feeling but a STANCE that you deliberately take. It is the attitude we call courage.” Yes, it’s the attitude of gratitude. As Matthew Fox says in his book “Meditation with Meister Eckhart”
“The Word of God
Is always “In the beginning.”
And this means it is always in the process of being born
And is always already born”
Life is process not product and we are LIFE!
DEEPENING OUR COMFORT WITH UNCERTAINTY By Kristi Nelson, Executive Director Gratefulness.org
“You do not need to know precisely what is happening, or exactly where it is all going. What you need is to recognize the possibilities and challenges offered by the present moment, and to embrace them with courage, faith, and hope.” ~ Thomas Merton
I used to put myself to sleep by repeatedly reciting a little mantra that helped me transition from active days to hopes for a calm mind at night: “There is nothing to do, nowhere to go, nothing to know.” Guiding myself into greater comfort with not knowing was always helpful in reassuring my mind that it could truly rest and take a break from trying to plan and figure everything out. It seemed that where my mind could lead, my body would follow, and so I could slip into the sweet embrace of sleep.
There is much to discover that can surprise us, so much to which we can gratefully yield, so much permission to let go of our need to know or control what will happen.
In our daily lives, there are endless forms of uncertainty — far more things we cannot know than know. Objectively, this could be cause for great delight, wonder, and surrender. We could be relieved and appreciative that we do not have to perpetually hold onto the steering wheel, captain the ship, drive our lives. There is much to discover that can surprise us, so much to which we can gratefully yield, so much permission to let go of our need to know or control what will happen. And yet when we experience the presence of true uncertainty in our lives, it can be rattling. It goes against the conditioning most of us have internalized that not knowing is threatening — that it must be hidden or overridden, solved or resolved, as quickly as possible.
For everyone alive now, and for everyone who has ever lived, we are united in the fact that life invites us to show up again and again into mystery. There are no guarantees — only exquisite unknowns. We do not know exactly how or when we will die, and there is no single formula for how best to live. We do not know how life is going to unfold — in the grand scheme and also in its minutiae — and we cannot be in charge of most all of it. This freedom from control can either shrink our perspective to the size of a clinging fist or deliver us readily into the gaze of the cosmos, depending on how we approach life in the moment. Much of our freedom depends on cultivating greater perspective about being with uncertainty, however and whenever we can.
As we meet the uncertain world with grateful and wholehearted presence, our inner life and spiritual life are unfathomably enriched.
When we practice grateful living, we create a welcoming space for the surprise of uncertainty, knowing that it arrives naturally in each of those moments when we truly take nothing for granted. Without expectations, life is one surprising unfolding after another. The exact nature of the surprises that arrive in our lives is not up to us, but the nature of our response to surprise is ours and ours alone. Each time we let go and welcome life instead of holding onto our ideas about it, we receive reinforcement for our willingness to surrender to vastness rather than trying to resist it. The rewards of this shift are ever-available to us and make the risks ever-worthwhile, as they deliver the gifts of greater ease, resilience, and joy. As we meet the uncertain world with a more grateful, trusting presence, our inner life and spiritual life are unfathomably enriched. As Br. David Steindl-Rast says, “Deep trust in life is not a feeling but a stance that you deliberately take. It is the attitude we call courage.”
It seems we could benefit from learning to bring more of the intentions and prayers we use to guide ourselves to sleep at night to help guide us in how to be truly AWAKE to our days. At night, we soften into the impending unknown of sleep by encouraging our minds to be fully in the moment, to let go, to trust, to surrender. Perhaps if we allowed ourselves to remember this practice of release — and that there truly, often is nothing to know — in the fullness of how we live out our days, we might find ourselves more available to life, and life infinitely more available to us.
Carol, Thank you so much for these words of wisdom. I will read them over again and again…to fully gain their meaning and knowledge.
So here’s a question that troubles me.
I hesitate to ask, but here goes.
Why should I trust life?
And what would I be trusting life to do
or not do?
Mary, I think Br. David is saying that it is a stance you choose. It’s about HOW not so much WHY. In my own case, I found that when I trust Life, I am able to trust myself. Until I began to trust life, to believe that I would be shown a way, I spent a lot of time mentally in the past or the future and I learned that I go there alone because the strength I need is always in the NOW. When I am in the past or the future, I am not able to be present to “what is” nor do I deal with it very well. The wholeness Beatrice spoke of in the quote I shared on January 14th is not there because I am trying to control something I can’t control. My mind is split. As Kristi says, “As we meet the uncertain world with grateful and wholehearted presence, our inner life and spiritual life are unfathomably enriched.” I’ve found that a good definition of Grace. Sincerely, Carol
What makes sense to me is that trusting life means believing that I will be shown a way.
Yes, that resonates with me. I get that. Thank you, Carol. This concept has troubled me, but I feel better about it now. Thank you. ♥️
Love this! To have “Deep trust in life…” is an orientation I need to be reminded of. Thank you for sharing!
Ah, good idea. My intention is to be kind. Make eye contact and engage with the world around me.
And listen. Listen with intention.
Charlie T, I think I will plagiarize your intention and make it mine for today too! 🙂
Yes. Listening is especially good.
I’m even trying to read the responses with intentionality. I have a tendency to rush. I want to breathe in each persons candor today.
Avril, So good to see you out here…I’ve missed you.
Charlie, most of us struggle with active listening. Even I’m still working on that. It’s easy to fall into 1 of 2 categories.
A. We listen to speak our minds.
B. We feel the need to listen to everything all the time.
I’ve experienced both places. B is worse. It feels heavy. We end up on the undesirable pleaser path. We start getting into a habit of giving from an empty cup.
Yes, it comes down to the “Work smarter; not harder” saying as usual. I’ve learned to expect nothing in return. Active listening feels normal. That’s its original purpose.
Shunryu Suzuki has an entire chapter from “Zen Mind, Beginner’s Mind” dedicated on the concept of expecting nothing in return. He calls it “Nothing Special.” He talks about being free from agendas and not having the idea of gaining something when we do a task.
I intend to be fully present as I go through the day. I have a zoom class on the yoga sutras this morning and intend on participating and taking all of the knowledge I can from the teacher and other students. And I intend on speaking to people as I attend a new yoga class this evening. This will be my second class there, and I’m so excited because I think I found a studio that resonates.
A studio that resonates.
That makes all the difference, doesn’t it.
♥️
Absolutely! It feels really good so far, and hopefully I can fill a void that has been in my life the past few years.
It sounds like finding your people, your tribe.
I have been looking for that, myself.
I wish you much joy in your yoga practice and teaching!
To come back to the present when those “ what ifs” or “shoulds” from earlier in the week pop up.
Dieng, it’s easy to think that alternative scenarios are better when the cards are stacked against us. The present is the best situation.